tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post2268149091491073734..comments2024-03-08T22:46:34.460-05:00Comments on What I Wore 2Day: IRL AwkwardnessKasmirahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01866928448186848884noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-23993787836644918302010-04-09T13:23:25.793-04:002010-04-09T13:23:25.793-04:00Wow, so many comments! Great topic, Kasmira!
I h...Wow, so many comments! Great topic, Kasmira!<br /><br />I have a personal blog that I use for journaling, posting my art and writing, and for sharing art and music that I like. It's a bit complicated to go into in a comment, but I've always tried to keep a very strict separation between my offline and online lives. I'm very open about my writing with family and close friends, but it's hard for me to imagine sharing my blog with a person I didn't know well.<br /><br />Then again, I kind of want everyone to read (and love) everything I write and I try to share it online as often as I can. I'm aware of the inherent narcissism in blogging and I'm ok with that; we're not monsters just because we post things online for others to see. So, I try to walk the line between self-promoting and annoying with the things I create and share.<br /><br />Since I try to keep my online life fairly anonymous, I think I would die if anyone actually recognized me in the street. Still, I'd welcome a chance meeting with any nice, curious person.<br /><br />I also think a simple "thank you" is good enough. I love reading other blogs, so I'd probably ask if they blog and what about. Maybe you could ask them about what they like about your blog in particular? I don't know, it seems best to be positive and let them steer the conversation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-85363689474016636802010-04-02T08:08:46.873-04:002010-04-02T08:08:46.873-04:00I feel exactly how you described it about my blog....I feel exactly how you described it about my blog. I'm really shy and embarrassed to tell friends about it and to have them know how much time I put into my outfits, something about that feels vain or narcissistic, even though I don't think that of my co-bloggers or style bloggers like yourself. But I guess because I *fear* that that is how others would perceive it, I want to avoid that and still keep my site a secret from most people I know.<br /><br />SAcademichichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03818691278018807166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-62693928762045622342010-04-01T22:07:38.365-04:002010-04-01T22:07:38.365-04:001.I have a blog and don't show my face
2.I tel...1.I have a blog and don't show my face<br />2.I tell people about it, I only started it in Dec 09 and only have about 360 followers so it is quite new.<br />3.I have been recognised a few times, odd since don't show my face!<br />4. I always say thankyou and ask how they came across it.<br /><br />Kasmira I really enjoy your blog. It makes me sad you were savaged in the forums but you're having the last laugh now!Faux Fuchsiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317677066408030053noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-2305450407131946182010-04-01T18:17:51.232-04:002010-04-01T18:17:51.232-04:00Kasmira: I've been shocked that you do all of...Kasmira: I've been shocked that you do all of this work for no money. I guess what I'm saying is that you have a real talent, and can't believe noone has snatched you from your HR corporate position to come work for them in the fashion industry!<br />Yes, I have a couple of blogs...the one I write weekly is under someone else's name and is used to keep a group of triathletes going....my most recent one is on my rehabilitation from a skiing accident and subsequent knee surgery and like most of your commenters, keep it secret because I want to continue writing in it like a diary. I had a fashion newsletter for a while and provide wardrobe consulting so I know it's just a matter of time before I start blogging about wardrobing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15043989920935533781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-11490232854843677262010-04-01T10:43:51.685-04:002010-04-01T10:43:51.685-04:00Sam - I'm kind of deaf...I probably didn't...Sam - I'm kind of deaf...I probably didn't hear you! Consider this a belated "thank you." (BTW was that in front of the Chiquita building about a year ago? I remember someone hollering at me, but I couldn't understand the words. I tend to get a lot of non-blog, harassing comments from people on the street so I tune a lot of it out.)<br /><br />...bill - the auditor website connection does freak me out a little. I take care not to publish too many personal details, but I can't hide my home address from an internet sleuth!<br /><br />MarchMusing - go for it! You can always chop off or obscure your face when you start out, if you are uncomfortable with revealing your identity. However, I find blogs with faces the most engaging.<br /><br />All - I plan to use some of your conversation engaging suggestions. Thanks!Kasmirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01866928448186848884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-67548595227235994352010-03-31T12:27:13.067-04:002010-03-31T12:27:13.067-04:00I do not have a blog, but I am a part of a baby/mo...I do not have a blog, but I am a part of a baby/mother forum. I have been for 3 years now. I consider those people my friends and I talk about them openly to my real life friends. The majority of my family and friends know about it and I am not shy about telling them because it has been so much help to me in the past. I even suggest it to new moms. This is similar to your situation because it's an online community. It almost kinda makes you feel geeky for having online friends you've never met, but at the same time, I wouldn't trade them for the world. An awesome bunch of ladies. Well, I've gone off on a tangent here, lol. I love your blog and if I met you IRL I probably would come up to you and probably even want a picture with you. I think you inspire many, you are artistic, and you shouldn't be shy about this. Hey, you even try to do some good by telling people to thrift their clothes instead of buying all new. I think if you said thank you as a response to my question, OUR conversation wouldn't end there. I'm sure I'd ask more questions. You should be shy when someone recognizes you, it just means you guys share a passion for fashion. :o)Jannihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02579870054370714442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-60807158471945509732010-03-31T09:40:05.504-04:002010-03-31T09:40:05.504-04:00I thin k I can understand your feelings about peop...I thin k I can understand your feelings about people coming up to you, It is sort of weird at times like your a mini celeb. But I think a thank you for reading, and what do you like best about it is sufficient. If your up to it ask a few questions for a marketing stand point, ask them what they would change and how you can make your blog better. They'd love that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-29939817285784406662010-03-31T07:45:38.532-04:002010-03-31T07:45:38.532-04:00I just wanted to finally tell YOU thank you. I am...I just wanted to finally tell YOU thank you. I am a mom of 6, and I really lost myself fashionwise for a while. Thanks for helping me find me again. I have really enjoyed your blog, I have been lurking for about a year. Anyway, I don't think that if I met you in person you should have to say thank you to me. It is obvious you put plenty of time, thought and effort into your blog. The gratitude is mine.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01436038711431389274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-72941490558606084792010-03-31T07:44:18.348-04:002010-03-31T07:44:18.348-04:00I just wanted to finally tell YOU thank you. I am...I just wanted to finally tell YOU thank you. I am a mom of 6, and I really lost myself fashionwise for a while. Thanks for helping me find me again. I have really enjoyed your blog, I have been lurking for about a year. Anyway, I don't think that if I met you in person you should have to say thank you to me. It is obvious you put plenty of time, thought and effort into your blog. The gratitude is mine.Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01436038711431389274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-36543322658027037192010-03-31T01:49:05.710-04:002010-03-31T01:49:05.710-04:00When I get comments on the outfit I'm wearing,...When I get comments on the outfit I'm wearing, I love to share my blog with others. I say Thank you first and then write down my blog address if they are interested. They usually are interested in starting their own blog! I tell them it's very addictive! I am happy to share my new-found passion. Maybe it's a newbie thing, but I am kinda proud of myself for taking on such a consuming project. My blog is my way of being creative and meeting new,cool ladies or gents from all over the world!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06360833507127511662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-39907829335129834672010-03-30T23:09:27.506-04:002010-03-30T23:09:27.506-04:00I think it's easiest to tell your friends abou...I think it's easiest to tell your friends about your blog first. Yours seems to have a lot of traffic, so that means it's popular so you should be proud of it! (even if people come on to be trolly, they go back to their caves afterward and you still have a great blog) My roommate just started a blog and she just sent a few good friends the link because she knows we will support it. When it comes up, I think you should just own it! I see you say you're a faux extrovert, and maybe connecting your blog to your every day life when people bring it up will make you more extroverted in real life (if that's what you want) Good luck, and I will keep reading!Sophia Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06912031271741343345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-56107634870254815502010-03-30T16:44:58.515-04:002010-03-30T16:44:58.515-04:00As a true extrovert, I'm not shy about talking...As a true extrovert, I'm not shy about talking about my blog (especially since it helps promote my etsy shop!), with one notable exception: at work, it is pretty much top secret. If any of my coworkers know about it, they have thankfully never mentioned it; seeing as how my blog is partly about how lamentably my coworkers dress, they perhaps think they're the target of my observations and keep the knowledge to themselves. But I keep it quiet at work because frankly I'm just not very close with most of my coworkers and don't really feel like sharing that aspect of my life with them. And perhaps I feel like I wouldn't be taken seriously as a scientist if people knew just how much energy I put into style and fashion.<br /><br />I've been recognized three times, and it was weird only from the standpoint of knowing that other people might have recognized me at some point but not said anything. So it makes me worry about not having complete anonymity when for whatever reason I venture out looking not-so-stylish. I guess the solution is just to look great all the time -- ha!<br /><br />A simple 'thank you' is sufficient, I think. The times I've been recognized I have tried to engage the person in further conversation, but they were the ones who sort of got shy and didn't say much. I think it's equally awkward for the recognizer and the recognizee, because after the first introduction you realize that you don't know that person at all, even though the blog creates an air of friendship.Audihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13578485770637036384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-196614138980112722010-03-30T10:30:33.903-04:002010-03-30T10:30:33.903-04:00Hi Kasmira,
Good article and here's my input....Hi Kasmira,<br /><br />Good article and here's my input. No blog yet but I am working on putting one up.<br /><br />Here's how I would handle the recognition.<br /><br />Firstly, "thank you" is nice but neither you nor the person recognizing you is satisfied with just that. If you were you would not be asking.<br /><br />You are out there and it is one of your alter egos. We all have them and I suggest you let yours do her thing. She is the same or similar to your alter ego in acting. <br /><br />How do you respond to people who watch a performance and want to know more about you. Of course many people have only the information we give them when doing a blog or acting or whatever medium we express ourselves.<br /><br />When someone recognizes you, thank them if that is appropriate and just talk to them as you would anyone else. Don;t spend a ton of time in detail just top level stuff. When it is time to leave the elevator, say "nice to meet you and thank you for your support". It is what anyone would say to a fan and that's what we are. We support you and look forward to your performances online.It is interest, entertainment, and different opinion and information. <br />Realize too that the online Kasmira may be very different than at home Kasmira, but they are both part of you and each one takes priority when in that role.<br /><br />Good luck and keep up the good work. You have created a nice blog and one many people look forward to reading!<br />MichaelMikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12542088961978481546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-22421601918048252372010-03-30T03:17:48.435-04:002010-03-30T03:17:48.435-04:00Yes, I have a blog, and I tell like minded friends...Yes, I have a blog, and I tell like minded friends about it. <br /><br />I love to take pics of shops I go to and sometimes have to explain myself, so I carry calling cards with my blog address.<br /><br />It is sooo funny that you should mention your shyness today of all days, I SWEAR I saw you today at the local Arc. But I'm in Denver, so it couldn't have been you as you are in a different state - I just about embarrassed myself by saying "Hey! Love your outfit today!"<br /><br />Sorry to embarrass you here, but "I'm a huge fan!"Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14683211917205104048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-64147474319811497312010-03-29T22:44:32.595-04:002010-03-29T22:44:32.595-04:00Yes, I have a style blog...though it's fairly ...Yes, I have a style blog...though it's fairly new. I've only told a couple of my close friends and my boyfriend about it. And I think only one of those has ever visited it. Even my family doesn't know yet. I'm not entirely sure why I'm not quite comfortable with people that I know in person having that sort of information about me while I hope that people I don't know in person do visit my blog and get to know me, as I've gotten to "know" others like you through their wonderful blogs! <br /><br />I think it's mostly that I have similar concerns to other commenters about having my real-life professional identity linked to my blogging identity. I'm a graduate student at a tech university, so my profession is fairly male-centric. While I like wearing interesting things and reminding people that one can be a computer scientist and still be feminine and interested in personal exploration through style, I absolutely would not be comfortable with someone who was Googling me in a professional context stumbling on my blog. I admit I actually changed my blogging name a few days ago for exactly that reason...I didn't have my real name on there, but one could have tangentially ended up on the blog if you searched for the right thing. (Though I did have one coworker attempt to find the "hypothetical fashion blog" I mentioned with no success, so I guess I'm safe.)<br /><br />As far as what to say when someone mentions your blog IRL..."thank you" is probably sufficient. Maybe worth asking them if they keep a blog themselves? <br /><br />(Also, I've really been enjoying your blog and your style! So thank you for sharing so much...)Ellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16105455066730947081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-43525819265230100772010-03-29T21:55:32.177-04:002010-03-29T21:55:32.177-04:00Kasmira, I look forward to reading your blog every...Kasmira, I look forward to reading your blog every day. You are very stylish and you have inpsired me to try my hand at a fashion blog as soon as I learn how to use my camera! It is not vain to share your talents with others. I believe that style and writing ability is mosty definitely worth sharing with others. I want to say a big THANK YOU for making my days a little more pleasant. As to your other question. Thank you is the only response that is necessary to a RL compliment.Debbi@SheAccessorizesWellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02888489368256761571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-69715590318047641892010-03-29T21:25:45.903-04:002010-03-29T21:25:45.903-04:00I have a style blog. I've had it for a couple ...I have a style blog. I've had it for a couple years but I didn't tell even my boyfriend for months. For people who are outside of "the community" I fully expect it to seem entirely vain and self-centered and full of myself, which is why I'm hesitant to bring it up.<br /><br />One friend found me through a random google search, and my guy has mentioned it to a few of his friends, but other than that no one in "real life" knows about it. I think now I'd be OK with some friends, cousins, etc. knowing, because I've had it so long and sort of become more secure in it. But I know that my parents and brothers would think I was NUTS.<br /><br />I would be thrilled if someone on the street recognized me though. I mean, most of the fun of blogging is connecting with like-minded people and the friendships I've made, so I'd love to extend some of that into my offline life. To be honest, if I found the courage to tell someone that I loved their blog and all I got was a "thank you" I would feel a little slighted. I guess I would hope for a bit more conversation than that.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17840377765937929376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-9469357626638284722010-03-29T19:53:56.320-04:002010-03-29T19:53:56.320-04:00I'm totally with you on this one. You're ...I'm totally with you on this one. You're actually much more open with your blog than I am! I've only told a few friends and family members - but to most - my blog is my secret outlet. <br /><br />I get shy and feel a little silly sometimes, but I'm definitely more open to sharing with friends than sharing with anyone I have a professional relationship with. I like to keep my personal and work life very separate so that is a bit no-no for sharing there...<br /><br />As for how to respond - I think "thank you" is a perfect response - and maybe something about why or how you started it up (just for conversation..?).Londynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14681690616884677159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-69587123555810084342010-03-29T17:52:37.491-04:002010-03-29T17:52:37.491-04:00I've been waiting for a reason to talk about t...I've been waiting for a reason to talk about this. Thank you.<br /><br />I kept my blog from my fiance for three months. He and my sister would catch me doing little photo shoots (I only asked them once to take my photos- once was all it took to realize they weren't up to it)and I would say it was for posterity, or for my weardrobe account. They would walk behind me while I was at the computer updating my blog and I'd change screens really quickly, like someone sneakily watching porn. I felt like I was holding some terrible secret from Ben, like I was cheating on him with my blog, so one day while we were walking on the beach I mustered up the courage to have the conversation. "Babe, there's something I need to tell you..." To my relief, he didn't poke fun or ask me why I needed to blog or any of the other horrible reactions I'd imagined. And he doesn't ask to look at it, he doesn't even bring it up. That's exactly what I wanted- to not talk about it, because guys really just don't get it.<br /><br />I don't tell other people about my blog. I don't know how to bring it up in conversation for one, and I don't see why anyone who wasn't in front of a computer would care. My friends wouldn't judge me but I doubt they'd understand. I blog for other bloggers to read and I have no qualms about dropping my blog address at the end of a comment. IRL it's different. I'm not a conceited or superficial person but I feel like style blogging seems that way to "outsiders."<br /><br />No one recognizes me because my blog is really new and small, but I imagine if they did I would blush, say thanks, and ask what they liked about it. <br /><br />Tiffany<br />areasontobefabulous.blogspotUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15616346243022843021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-77133418513665904292010-03-29T16:44:13.232-04:002010-03-29T16:44:13.232-04:00Wow, 44 response, you hit a nerve.
As a 'faux...Wow, 44 response, you hit a nerve.<br /><br />As a 'faux extrovert' (love that term) myself, I kept my blog and my on-line shop a secret for quite a while. It was actually kind of fun, like being a secret agent or something. I still feel a little uncomfortable whenever anyone in the 'real' world asks me about them. <br /><br />And 'thank you' would be enough for me. Although, I might have a question or two if you had the time.maryebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10116049169463885844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-2483816767014961552010-03-29T15:31:11.278-04:002010-03-29T15:31:11.278-04:00Yes, I have a blog it is fashion related, mostly w...Yes, I have a blog it is fashion related, mostly what I wear.<br />I don't tell people about it. My husband knows but does not have the link... and a couple of friends have suggested I do one.. but I have not told them, nor think I will.<br />I think if anyone recognized me I would drop dead in embarrassement. Honestly.<br />I think that if I ran into you and commented on your blog, I would not expect anything but a warm smile or just plain thanks...Lorenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16720997862417551402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-77380157368904717492010-03-29T14:32:42.631-04:002010-03-29T14:32:42.631-04:00I have two blogs, one for friends and family that&...I have two blogs, one for friends and family that's mainly about our family and what we're up to, and a new 'style' blog, although I'm embarrassed to even call it that because it's more of a way of tracking my style journey. <br /><br />I have no problem discussing my first blog with anyone, but the second 'style' blog is more my little secret. I'm afraid that too many people I know would find it ridiculous or think I'm being vain and superficial to care so much about what I wear.<br /><br />I don't think anyone would ever recognize me from my blog, it's so small and insignificant in the whole world of blogging.<br /><br />When people tell me they love my family blog I feel kind of honored that they would take time out of their scheduled to read something I've written. I share my crazy family stories and photos to help others laugh and see the real side of parenting.<br /><br />If I came up to you and mentioned the blog I'd be thrilled with a 'thank you'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-61433154986698140202010-03-29T14:20:29.964-04:002010-03-29T14:20:29.964-04:00I too have a style blog. It's less than two m...I too have a style blog. It's less than two months old and I don't only do outfit posts (in fact, they're fairly few and far between since it's hard to find someone to take the picture. We're all so busy!). So I've never been recognized on the street, though that would be exciting (the first few times). <br /><br />Even though I'm open about my blog (as in, it's linked on facebook, I'll tell people if they ask, etc.), I do get uncomfortable talking about it with non-style-minded people in real life. If someone's not really into the whole blogging world, then they don't really realize what it's all about. Plus I feel like talking about it would reduce me to one of those caricatures of someone with too much free time on their hands.<br /><br />I think starting a short conversation is the best reaction to recognition. The thing about blogs is that they feel so personal, your readers feel like they know you even though you don't know them. Plus, they're giving you a compliment, and it's always nice to reward that with some attention in return: "Oh thank you! How did you find it? Are you interested in fashion? Do you have a blog?" That sort of thing would be nice to hear from a blogger you've been reading avidly for years!<br /><br />Robyn<br /><a href="http://chichisaysrobyn.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">ChiChiSaysRobyn.blogspot.com</a>Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844371151461530288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-46531656906816729222010-03-29T13:29:37.255-04:002010-03-29T13:29:37.255-04:00I work downtown Cincinnati and have seen you out d...I work downtown Cincinnati and have seen you out during lunch. I once came up to you and said, "I love your blog"! You looked at me and with no expression what-so-ever and said nothing to me and walked away! Whatever!Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05995697934427605975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35612423.post-755033765856590842010-03-29T12:36:05.920-04:002010-03-29T12:36:05.920-04:00I have a blog, and for the first year I didn't...I have a blog, and for the first year I didn't tell anyone at all. Then it got covered in a newspaper, so I told everyone about it, and since I've started talking about it more, though I still don't tend to volunteer it to people I don't know. It just seems such a frivolous thing to do, to post pictures of outfits! It's more like I might be talking about someone I 'met' through the blog, so I say that rather than pretend they are someone I actually know, which is what I used to do.Francahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05495421838862275042noreply@blogger.com